Are Your Goals Holding YOU Back?

 

Hello Everyone Happy Hump Day WOW...we made it to The Fall!!! Can you believe it??   Let me ask you a Question? Did any of you have Fall landing on a Tuesday as a Goal? Did any of you need it to be on the 22nd of September?   It happened anyway, right....The way our calendar is set up, the way our clocks, schedules and process are set up...   Fall happened no matter what...Just like Winter is scheduled to land on Monday December 21st...you don't have to do anything   Now...Imagine tomorrow you wake up and you look at the calendar tomorrow and it's not December 21st and you got mad?? Then the next day and the next day?   My son goes though that waiting for Christmas or his Birthday or any day he is waiting for   But hopefully you get what I mean....it's the same thing with the Scale or Goal of weight loss   YESTERDAY I SHARED THIS ON INSTAGRAM :   "If you want better Results, then forget about setting goals. Focus on your systems instead" What's the difference between goals and systems or Process Goals are about the results you want to achieve... Systems are about the process that leads to those Results Imagine getting on the scale every morning or standing naked in front of the mirror every day...and expecting the scale to move or your body to change (Goal) Without doing the things that make that happen like your food, exercise, sleep, water (System) Question for you reading this...if you completely ignored your goal and instead only focused on the system... would you still get Results Try that the other way... Focus on the goal and ignore the system...still getting the results you want?   This is a GREAT example of what I am saying   Goal was weight loss or fat loss....but the MOST important thing was The Process, The Plan...not what the scale said   AGAIN: Goals are about the results you want to achieve... Systems are about the process that leads to those Results   Here is what the means specifically    If I were a Basketball Coach or Football Coach or Soccer Coach...The Goal is to Win The Championship The system or process is everything from how you recruit players to training plans, diet, practice..etc   The Goal in any sport is to FINISH the game with the best score, but it would not make sense to spend the whole game staring at the scoreboard   The way to win is to get better each day by doing the things you MUST do everyday and that shows during the game when you play   The same is TRUE for other areas of life, like weight loss, IF YOU WANT BETTER RESULTS, THEN FORGET ABOUT SETTING GOALS. FOCUS ON THE SYSTEM   Goals are great for setting direction Systems are BEST for making Progress   I got a lot of this observationally, but could not put it into words till I read Atomic Habits..I'm sure you have seen I quote it often   Listen this is NOT unique to some people   My clients struggle with these ideas The new ones that have been with me for a month or a week..they want results yesterday   And even my clients that have been with me for years, that have gotten great results, still 2nd guess the process or the system   Bri is a GREAT example...she lost 20lbs last year...she has Kept it off, she has had a lot....A LOT of flexibility with her food..and is within a 3-5lbs range And her body has continued to improve regardless of the scale and she still questions it, struggles with the process and I've been Coaching her for 18 years ;-)     HOPE THAT ALL HELPS HOPE IT MAKE SENSE   Send questions   Coach Rafael   PS...ladies have you checked out A Butterfly Project on IG https://www.instagram.com/abutterflyproject/  I think today is the last day to enroll