I've been chatting with Lais about it for a while, and yesterday we while Mollie visited with us, we talked about it.
As I collect more and more data on everyone I Coach...I can spot different trends and one of the ones I see is the "All or Nothing" approach
If I can't eat all my meals, drink all my water and train like a beast in the gym...then I'm not doing any of it
“Too often, we fall into an all-or-nothing cycle with our habits.
The problem is not slipping up; the problem is thinking that if you can’t do something perfectly, then you shouldn’t do it at all.”
James Clear, Atomic Habits
I'm sure you have seen the quote about what happens if you have a flat tire...
Do you change the tire? Put some air in it? or...do you slash the other 3 tires?
Well, that's kind of the approach...I see a lot of people use...sometimes not even realizing it...and it paralyzes them
A lot of times, I will tell someone...let's just focus on drinking water today...or let's go for a 10 minute walk...yes...Ice cream is on your meal plan...just execute your plan...
And there are so many blocks...Ice Cream is not "diet" food, 10 minutes won't do anything...what good is drinking water if I had pizza for lunch?
But that is NOT a plan or program thing...it's your though process or mindset about it
Yesterday I saw my friend Brian wrote:
"Achieving a goal is about adopting the principles and values associated with the type of person capable of achieving that goal."
Drinking the water
The 10 Minute Walk
Eating the ice cream
Is NOT about the single outcome those things will produce...it's about taking the action, or putting in reps
One of my favorite books is Atomic Habits...James Clear talks about starting with Reps, not Goals
Start With Repetitions, Not Goals
Whenever you put in consistent work and learn from your mistakes, incredible progress is the result.
If you want to be stronger, you could analyze every movement and phase of your technique until you're blue in the face. Or, you could get under the bar, learn from your mistakes, and focus on doing more reps.
Put in Your Reps
When you look at goals this way, you start to realize that setting up a system for putting your reps in is more important than choosing a goal.
Everyone wants to make progress. And there is only one way to do it: put in your reps.
The goal is just an event — something that you can't totally control or predict. But the reps are what can make the event happen. If you ignore the outcomes and focus only on the repetitions, you'll still get results. If you ignore the
goals and build habits instead, the outcomes will be there anyway.
Forget about the goals this year. What is your plan for getting in the reps you need? What is your schedule for putting in a volume of work on the things that are important to you?
Most people...most of you, start with the goal first
I want to lose 10lbs
I want to run a marathon
I want to get on stage
I want to wear a bikini at the beach or pool
But you are not putting in the daily reps required for those things...or in some cases even have a plan in place for them
I his Book "Mindset Matters Most" Brian says:
"Consider yourself a camera sitting atop a tripod in the middle of a massive room. Your perspective is contained to a very limited viewpoint. The room itself is full of wonder, awe-inspiring potential, and unlimited possibility, but you have become fixed to a stationary position. Through that small window of a
camera lens, you have created a story and a conviction that this angle of the room is the only angle that exists.
Unless someone were to move the tripod.
Then the story would change."
Coaching...or Coaching the way I do it, is about moving the Tripod...Not taking the picture for you or doing the work for you, or telling you what to think or do.
And that is why it's not for everyone...
People want to restrict and deprive themselves for 14 days and pretend lose 10lbs...
I'm looking at you having a much bigger transformation....and I'm looking at you being able to keep it
Look at Julie...today we celebrate our 2 Year Coachaversary ...we started this journey together 2 years ago...and most people see her before and after picture and get inspired
but the one that I see, that most people miss is this one
2 years!!!...No rebound.....
No restrictions, no giving up bread, or sugar or eating out
No crazy hours in the gym, or long hours of cardio
And we are not only holding on to the results we go, we are still getting better
Want to know how?
1st she put in the reps...she was consistent with The Process...she ate her food the way I mapped it out, no matter what friends, family and co-workers said...no matter what her mind would say...she put in the reps.
Of course she had doubts and fears...but allowing the tripod to be moved created a new vantage point...and the story changed.
Now, as we wrap up 2021...and take our 10 minute walk into 2022...what will be different this year?
For most nothing...because they will approach it the same way they always approach it...
What I hope, if you have made it this far into this email, is that you you change...because most of you looking for changes, forget the change requires changing...not staying the same
Let me circle back to Brian and his Facebook post....for context and let me mention, I'm going to invite him to be a guest on our Podcast because I think it's important:
"But as we inch closer and closer to the annual celebration of Resolution Season, it may by worth noting that we can't achieve what we don't become.
Achieving a goal is about adopting the principles and values associated with the type of person capable of achieving that goal."
Who do you need to become in 2022, to achieve the outcome you want?
I wish you all an AMZING New Year
Thank you for an incredible 2021, can't wait to share more of what we do with you